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How you read yourself against How you read other peopleA two-by-two matrix. The horizontal axis runs from Not OK to OK; the vertical axis from Not OK at the bottom to OK at the top. Top left: I'm OK, you're not — No delegated work comes back right, reviews return covered in corrections, and the team stops volunteering. The evidence for it is produced by holding it. Top right: I'm OK, you're OK — The one stance from which a genuinely hard conversation is possible, because it does not require either person to be diminished for the problem to be real. Bottom left: Neither of us is OK — The withdrawn position. Nothing here is worth doing and nobody is going to fix it, so effort is pointless and cynicism is simply accurate. Bottom right: You're OK, I'm not — Good work arrives pre-apologised for, ideas are discounted before anyone else can, and contributions go unclaimed and therefore unattributed.I'm OK, you're notNo delegated work comesback right, reviews returncovered in corrections, andthe team stops volunteering.The evidence for it isproduced by holding it.I'm OK, you're OKThe one stance from whicha genuinely hardconversation is possible,because it does not requireeither person to bediminished for the problemto be real.Neither of us is OKThe withdrawn position.Nothing here is worth doingand nobody is going to fix it,so effort is pointless andcynicism is simplyaccurate.You're OK, I'm notGood work arrivespre-apologised for, ideasare discounted beforeanyone else can, andcontributions go unclaimedand therefore unattributed.HOW YOU READYOURSELFOKNot OKNot OKOKHOW YOU READ OTHER PEOPLE
Two judgements, four stances. The vertical axis is about you and the horizontal is about everybody else.
Two judgements, four stances. The vertical axis is about you and the horizontal is about everybody else.

Two judgements, four stances. The vertical axis is about you and the horizontal is about everybody else.

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